Life Lessons from Darla: A courageous girl living gracefully with a terminal illness taught me to empathize and accept people with differences

Summary

Shock. That was Darla's first reaction when her carefree childhood was disrupted by cancer. Her life became a roller coaster of intense emotions. Sadly, she lost her leg and, ultimately, faced death. During her illness, we shared difficult times, but also great times celebrating life as Darla grew in faith and joy. She lived in the present (not worrying about her past or future) and was very positive. Darla was a joy to be with because she was joyful!

My life was enriched by my precious friendship with Darla. She taught me to be more peaceful, loving, and accepting—especially of those who are considered different. My love for Darla and gratitude for the life lessons I received from being with her transcended the grief and heartbreak of losing her. I learned that our choices shape our lives. We have the power to help or hurt people. We can stagnate or soar into our dreams. Will we live in love or fear? Will we be courageous or withdraw when given challenges? Will we be caring or careless with others?

Here I share comical and touching tales of life with feisty Darla. I also include heartwarming stories about other amazing people and animals with disabilities and other differences. Like Darla's, their stories offer insight and inspiration. They show us that differences should be appreciated. They make the world a richer place.

Excerpts

A thought came to me. Was I looking at Darla’s body or at Darla? With fresh understanding, I looked at her and it was okay. Not so scary. (audio sample)

She wouldn’t have her dates or even a first kiss. So ... she decided to live those things through me. Feisty Darla gave me a smile one day. Not a sweet one—one of those sly little grins that made me cringe. I lifted my eyebrows and stared, waiting for it. “Go find somebody to kiss you,” she said nonchalantly. “Ha!” I squeaked, “I don’t think it’s that easy.” “Well, it can be,” she said. I was willing to do an awful lot for her, but this?